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Rants & Raves: My “Female Things” in the house

This is probably the first of many “Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars” posts. So we’re engaged and while still very hazy, we are deciding on how we want to proceed with the new life. One thing’s for sure, my presence in T’s house (or as he says “our house”), will be increasingly felt and it will also be the beginning of our “domestic issues”.

T currently lives in one of the upstairs room because it’s smaller and now he’s preparing to move to the Master Bedroom downstairs. He’s recently bought a new bed which he has started calling “our bed”. I like the word “our”. It makes me deliriously happy and incredibly secure.


In case you’re wondering, it’s a

  • Simmons Beautyrest Recharge Luxury Firm (King Size) from Best Mattress
  • Pure Beech 100% Modal Sateen Sheets (300 thread count)
  • A Bed, Bath & Beyond Comforter
  • Sedona Style sideboard that’s made in Mexico from reclaimed wood


This bed caused a little kerfuffle in our cross-continental household but it’s all settled now. I love it, it looks comfy and I’m very grateful that he’s so excited to set everything up. It’s great even though I wouldn’t be too fussed if we continued using the old bed upstairs. I just don’t think it’s necessary to have NEW everything.

The sideboard is another little *koff* cause for contention. It’s a gorgeous sideboard that was actually sitting in the vestibule all this while. I didn’t think it was necessary to buy new furniture for the room because I’m not about to move in just yet. Since it was already there, he could just move it into the room and use it as a dresser. BUT he also moved in all the pottery as well… WHICH brought me to ask, erm… which side is your room? I want my things on my side – you know, where I’ll put my boxes of accessories, make-up, mirror and what-nots. So anyway, it currently sits at the foot of the bed and we’ve decided that his side is near the bathroom and mine is nearer the door that goes out in the yard – natural sunlight to put on make-up… YAY!

T says “I love girl things” because “They remind me that a girl is there”. Sigh… how can you be upset with this guy for putting pottery where your jewellery boxes are supposed to sit?


And then there’s the issue of shoes. Yesterday morning, over Skype, I told him I need shoe cabinets. But we don’t have to get them now because I’m not moving in yet. BUT Mister went out and bought the above (see photo) – a over-the-door shoe hanger pockets thing. We have no hallway closet. This means that it has to hang in our rather compact walk-in closet – next to my nice, fresh, clean clothes. 4 issues – outside dirt inside the house; only flatties can sit in the pockets; smelly used shoes stuffed in the same small space with freshly laundered clothes; there are only 24 pockets (12 pairs of shoes). OMG!

I jokingly said that I’d bring only 2 pairs of shoes with me so that should solve the problem – sneakers and sandals. Mister replied “But if you are only bringing two, we can put them on the floor and get something larger later on”. In what universe can I survive on 2 pairs of shoes?

Anyway, that’s that for now. As the Chinese saying goes “when we get to the bridge, it’ll all straighten out” – the same as, we’ll cross the bridge when we get to it. Watch this space as we transform the bedroom over the next few years!

Welcome to the Happ Household!