Never thought it’d get this cold in Southern California and I love being able to layer my outfits. This is probably the rainiest winter I’ve experienced since I moved to the US about 10 years ago. But everything is green and we love it! I know that isn’t the case for those further north of us and it has gotten pretty bad.
Coat from RRejina Pyo, DKNY hoodie dress, Longchamp bag and Jeffrey Campbell shoes.
We chose to send Alastair to a school almost 20miles away from where we live so I have to leave by 7:15am to get there in time.
My everyday scarf of the moment is from Kate Spade and that’s my Mum-bag – a customized Kipling that fits all kind of junk including a nappy and a floor mat for Alastair because most places have no facilities for toileting a quadriplegic who can’t fit on a baby change table.
You don’t have to exercise to wear workout clothes. Did you know that?? Okay, now I do. It’s called Athleisure.
I am neither athletic nor do I find such attire suitable for my personal leisure activities BUT I do own exercise clothes these days. On Thursdays, I wear workout clothes and go bare-faced.
So I always say that every time I sweat, I die a little but after my heart attack, I knew I had to rehabilitate this broken body or I’ll truly die. Now I train with Jasmine at Divergent Fitness (the gym that Alastair goes to) and so far, she’s definitely made each session palatable with varied challenges each week. My favourite is learning to haul odd-shaped objects that are Alastair’s weight – my purpose is to care for him for as long as I can.
I find it patronizing when people tell me I look good now that I’ve lost weight. I’ve always hated equating size with attractiveness. More so now that I don’t feel good and occasionally still use a cane to help me walk. (I keep one in my car at all times.) They harvested 2 veins from my right calf to fix 2 of my 4 blocked arteries. That leg is still unreliable and weak. I still feel a lot of pain from the nerves healing. Weight-loss was a byproduct of my ordeal and not a happy thing. I feel like punching people all the time. Recovery has been a BITCH.
I don’t know how other special needs parents do it. Maybe I would just have to live in atheleisure so I can jump at every chance to exercise? Imagine me next to my parked minivan, just doing jumping jacks until they wheel Alastair out of the school gates.
I have 2 different pairs of Mum jeans. I love my Mum Jeans and during the winter season I have found myself living in them. Soooo comfy!
This top from Atlein, however, is another story. I love the colour. I love colour, period. And I like that drapey style but the folds don’t sit right on me. Does that stop me from wearing it? Do I care that it makes my boobs look asymmetrical? Nope. Obviously I’m not going to wear it as much as my Mum Jeans but I like it.
Talking about asymmetrical boobs – my open-heart surgery scar is crooked so it looks like I have a weird cleavage. Even I do a double-take sometimes. Hah! A cleavage is a cleavage even if it’s crooked or just visual trickery.
Are you a Mum? Are you also in your mid-40s? How much do you love Mum Jeans???
I have been obsessed with Farm Rio and this is one of my latest purchases. Great with my Mum Jeans and look at my banana earrings that go with my banana-print top! LOOK AT THAT!
And these strappy Timberland heels are so comfortable! Tom’s a whole foot taller than I am so sometimes it’s fun to just narrow that gap. Mostly though, I wear cute but practical shoes that will allow me to care for Alastair appropriately.